Hi! My name is Kimberly and I write the blog All Work And No Play Makes Mommy Go Something Something that chronicles my life as a mom, wife, Chuck Norris super fan, and my battle with chronic pain, bipolar, and anxiety disorder. My blog is like a bowl of mixed nuts at a party – a little bit of this and a little bit of that.
Living in: Canada
Kids: Chunky Monkey (8)
Blog: All Work And No Play Makes Mommy Go Something Something
Social Media: Instagram / Twitter / Facebook
What amazes you most about being a mom?
That I thought that I could train my son to pee IN the toilet but apparently he has the same ability as my husband – to pee over and around it. No, I’m kidding. Slightly. What amazes me most about being a mom, is that I never knew that I would be the one who is frequently taking the backseat on this journey. He has taught me so much about life already and how to slow down. I appreciate the small moments – those little things.
When did you realize you were ready to start a family and be all grown up?
Well, starting a family didn’t come easy for us. It was a planned adventure. I suffered a severe back injury at work and it took years, multiple procedures, therapies, and a major surgery to get back on my feet. It took the blessing of my neurosurgeon and my family doctor before we could even try.
What’s the one thing you said you’d never do as a mom, but ended up doing?
I said that I would never EVER make a different meal for my son. I caved. I. SO. CAVED. Because green things are poison, onions are rotten…
How would you describe yourself as a parent?
I like keep it real: I’m a “totally winging it” mom and I like to believe that 99.9% of us are doing the same. In my 8 years of being a parent, I’ve found that motherhood is as unpredicatble as the weather. The secret is showing up with love, patience, understanding, and when all else fails, I try to remember that God gave us tons of coffee and wine for a reason. Don’t forget that it’s OK to walk away and lock yourself in the bathroom. It’s acceptable. Trust me. Also, make sure you bring cookies.
What did you dream of becoming when you were still a kid yourself?
I always dreamt of becoming a nurse and I became one. I just can’t do the job anymore because I destroyed my back. So now I stay at home.
What’s your ‘escape’ from being a mom, what keeps you sane?
Writing keeps me sane. So does my psychiatrist 😉
Which human values do you consider most important to teach our kids?
Being kind. I cannot stress this enough. We teach our son that it doesn’t matter what colour our skin is kissed with, what part of the world we come from, what religion we believe in, culture, who we choose to love…etc – we all have the same exact junk on the inside. Our hearts beat the same and we all deserve compassion, respect, and kindness. We are all trying to live out our best lives on this earth and wouldn’t it be wonderful if we did it TOGETHER?
What are you struggling with while raising your kid(s)?
I was diagnosed with postpartum depression 6 weeks after he was born and then it was later changed to a diagnosis of bipolar 2 disorder and anxiety disorder. Parenting with a mental illness is very challenging to say the least. I used to worry myself sick about how my illnesses were going to impact his development but I look at him and marvel at all the things he does. He’s one of the most popular kids in his class with little ladies having crushes on him. He excels at hockey and they’ve dubbed him Green Machine because his smile is so wide that you can see his green mouth guard when he skates. When I pick him up, he’s always got the most gigantic hug for me. He seeks out the children at school who have no one to play with and he invites them to play. He’s a beautiful boy…I mean handsome. People with mental illnesses can be fantastic parents. I owe so much to my husband who puts on all the hats when I’m unwell and to our unwaivering support system.
What is the biggest lesson that you’ve learned so far in life?
You know who your real friends are when you get sick – the ones who stick by, hang on to them for dear life.
What is a goal you want to achieve in the next 10 years?
I would love to write my own book. I would also like to go back to school for something nursing related. I would also like a million dollars to at least do one of those things.
If you could give your great grand children some advice, what would it be?
To always keep this little nugget in your head: Who cares what people think – do what makes you happy